This is a secret charm and a godly one at that. If you are charming and comely, it will be difficult for men to take their eyes off you. But hay! The type of man you attract is very important here. You don’t want unserious guys or womanizers flocking around you. The idea is that you want to attract descent, elegant, responsible and godly men. It is simple but it works great wonders. Now let’s go!
Be clean, smart and good looking
No man will appreciate an inharmonious and unkempt lady. Even if you look neat outwardly your apartment should reflect the same thing. Dressing sexy is out of it; if you have to be sexy, be sure you will not meet up with the kind of men we are talking about here. Just keep it simple, smart and appreciable. Get a good deodorant, wear a good hair style, nice shoes or sandals to match and wear simple make up. A new blouse for the next day’s outing or job will just be fine. Not that smelling and messy blouse you were dressed in previously. A good sense of dressing shows how intelligent and smart one is. Once you are neat, smart and good looking, then be ready for a positive traffic.
Be organized
If one is organized, it shows in all you do. Use your time for the right thing. A disorganized lady is rebuffed and cannot be appreciated. People admire certain qualities in others and being organized is one of them. To be organized is simple; plan your time well, do the right thing at the right time, place things where they are supposed to be and not necessarily being fastidious, but keeping records and details of events and happenings around you, puts you as the most adorable.
Be humble
Even scriptures said it “pride goes before a fall.” Most responsible men desire that their dream lady should be humble. If you are humble, they are sure you will be respectful, reasonable and will not scrunch up their pride. In fact men prefer that their spouses should be respectful. They view love to be respect and little of saying “I love you”. After all humility is profitable and a well cultured lady should be humble.
Be well informed
Awolowo once defined an educated man as some one who has an idea of everything but know sufficiently in a particular area. When you hang out with friends and you engage in discussion do you lack words or always void of what to say? You need to improve on the way you access information. Know a little in sport, government and politics, health, relationship, banking and finance and so on. My dear, you will always sound intelligent if you are well informed. Know what is happening around you, the nation and international community. Nobody wants to marry a dummy or an empty headed lady. O! Actually you can be a dummy but not for the type of cute guys we are talking about here. Being well informed is not optional is a prerequisite for the law of attraction.
Be self sufficient
Be content with what you have. Don’t always prefer what others have. What God has given you is sufficient enough. Many ladies date or hang out with guys for what they can get. Such ladies are always demanding. As a lady you should work hard to meet up with your up keep and manage what you have. Don’t depend on any man to sustain you. Nobody is looking for liability rather they would prefer an asset. If you are in a relationship and you are self sufficient I tell you, your man will always respect you and would want to do all it takes to keep you.
Be reliable and responsible
Everybody would prefer a consistent, dependable and trustworthy person and to say the least any man’s dream woman should posses among many qualities, reliability and accountability.
Be generous, charitable and kind
Being generous does not only entail giving out money, but imparting others, helping people to reach their goals. My mother told us a story of a young girl who she housed, feed and connected to someone abroad and she has gotten her green card in the UK but that same girl she helped forgot her, not even a call, initially I was annoyed but she said “hay! I only helped her because she was suffering and it is okay to help for Christ’s sake” I think this will help. Even the unkind, love those that are kind and the stingy, praise the generous.
Be resourceful
Try to provide useful hint to resolve a problem or suggest possible solution to difficult situation. Show concern and be involved in helping your spouse, friends and colleagues. If you are resourceful you will be commendable and recommendable. Most ladies sit and cross their legs and wait for their man to solve problems without a single contribution.
Be approachable
Most ladies put themselves in a class that does not exist and at the end they go from church to church seeking spiritual help. The ideal man may not come in classy appearance but they may just be the God sent. Be simple enough to be approachable and accessible. But hold to your standard.
Be open minded and accommodating
Secretive people lose friends easily, open minded people sustain friendship. I’m not saying you should be easily read like a book rather you should be free with people and accommodating. Marriage is not just for the two of you but including friends and relatives.
Be firm
Don’t be tossed to and fro, learn to be resolute and firm. Most guys will want to take some ladies for granted but if you stand by your resolutions, you will always overcome. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. know when to accept and when to refuse.
Don’t try to impress a man or win his heart
You are not desperate and you are not that cheap to think of impressing some one much less trying to win a man’s interest. Be yourself and let them come for you. The woman’s pride is when a man puts efforts together to win a woman not the other way round. This is not the same as when a man is interested and he is not bold enough to stand you, in that case you can create the grounds but not like as if you are desperate. Don’t ever think of trying to keep a man by all means or displeasing yourself to keep on a relationship, let them go. Do what is right and let you grounds be firm.
Don’t be cheap or loose
The problem today with most relationships is sex. The lady thinks if she refuses him sex, he will go and she will lose him. My dear, love is not sex; love is value, care, concern, and respect for one’s principle. How many people will you have sex with before you marry? Since not all courtship will end in marriage. Some see sex as fun and game; to them it does not matter. Such people are loose and cheap. If you most be admired you have to be priceless.
Don’t hang out with too many male friends
Too much friends is not good for people with goals and visions. Choose your friends but as a lady if all your friends are guys or most of them guys that will help paint a wrong picture of your person and that is not healthy enough for a lady who wants to be admired.
Don’t try to be decisive or meet up
The best you can be is yourself. If you are not good enough you can improve but not with the intension to meet up with what you think people want. Don’t be a shadow of something else; be yourself, there is some one who will appreciate you. I have seen ladies taking salary advance just to buy a car to meet up with their counterpart or to belong to a class. You end up pleasing others and building a castle in the air.
Don’t try to be who you are not
You are what you are and you can’t be some one else. Live with what you have and some one will love you for being you. Each time you feel you are not good enough or eloquent enough or beautiful enough it will certainly reflect on how you relate with people and that will determine how far you will go in life.
Don’t gossip
All men hate gossips. Don’t be a rumormonger, no matter how true you think it is. Don’t spread rumors. Naturally cultured men judge descent ladies from that too.
Don’t double date
If you double date is possible you will lose both and that is an indication that you will be unfaithful even in marriage. The people around you are aware of what you do, certainly they may have talked to some one may be the rightful man. One relationship at a time, if you must quit, do that and start a new one on a clean slate.
Don’t always allow them to pay the bills
When you go outing, sometime offer to offset the bills and don’t always be at the receiving end. Most ladies want it free always and make demands; you can’t fool anyone save yourself. Time will catch up with you.
Don’t try to show “you have money too”
John meet Jenifer at the bank, a fresh graduate who would want to work in the bank should the opportunity comes. Jenifer is not rank and file personnel in the organization, so she promised to help. One day Jenifer invited John to her house, at her apartment, she made a proposal and to cut a long story short she wanted John to know she has the influence, money and can offer him the job. The bottom line is that John refused the offer because he understands the implication. I know of a lady who is very wealthy or comfortable up till now still single and searching. She is proud, insecure and domineering. If you are blessed is for your advantage, use it wisely. No man will appreciate self acclaimed wealthy ladies.
Don’t always argue or nag
Don’t argue with your spouse or partner, you can make your point but be calm. You can still make him understands but not at the point of argument or when you nag. All men hate when you argue or always claiming that you are right. The worse is when you nag
Note that it is not easy to have all these qualities and to say the least just to be irresistible. But I tell you a lady that posses these qualities is worthy of admiration and appreciation. There is no one person who can not improve on the way they behave. Change for the better is worth it. To be happily and successfully married and remain married require a lot of sacrifices, developing these qualities is worth it. Above all these, the woman that fears the LORD she shall be praised. Be adorable, valuable, and attractive woman you want to be. Enjoy!
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