Wrong timing
Everything we do in life depends on time; there is a time to be single, to find love and to be married. From creation, Adam was alone before God made him a companion (Eve). A time to be single is a time to pray, a time to discover your purpose, a time to drop all bad characters, a time to build your strength and confidence and also a time to package yourself for your rightful partner. Remember the purpose of every husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the church why that of a woman is to respect and be submissive to your husband. The question now is as a man will you be ready to love a woman as Christ love the church or as a woman are you ready to drop pride and give total respect and submission to your dream man? Check your heart carefully before given answers to these questions. Don’t be in a hurry to engage yourself in a relationship, take your time to analyze yourself because if you attach yourself in a relationship without knowing your priorities and desires then don’t be surprise when the relationship fails. The only man that can walk out the best time for you is God (he makes all things beautiful in his time), so when you ask him to decide a time for you, be very much assured that you will have the most beautiful relationship that you have always dreamt of. Time is worth waiting for so wait.
Dwelling in your past
Though your past may be hurting, people have disappointed your sincere heart many times but that is not enough reason to make them affect your present relationship. Allow the past to end with the past wake up each day as if they never existed. Delete them completely in your mind if your relationship must grow. Don’t hide your past from your partner no matter how bad it is let him or her know. If you cannot let go of your past then I will say that you are not ready for a new relationship. Take your time to drop everything that has happen in the past so that when you find new love the relationship will not be damned.
You always fail promises
Many relationships today have failed because of lack of keeping promises. People easily make promises and do not keep them, don’t make promises you can’t fulfill, one of the consequences is your partner will see you as one who do not stand by his words and gradually they will lose trust and respect for you. Promises are not meant to be broken; if you know that you can’t keep to them than don’t let it out from your mouth.
Insincerity
Be yourself and don’t pretend to be who you are not, any one that does not love you for who you are, is not worthy to be with you. Trying to please someone cannot sustain a healthy relationship, don’t claim that you are from a rich home while your parents are poor, don’t claim that you work in shell while you don’t even have a job. When you live a life of pretence someday you will be exposed and I don’t think you will enjoy the shame. Just be you because the best you can be is yourself. When love finds you let it find the “you” that you truly are. Be very sincere when talking about your background, educational status etc, building your relationship on the platform of lies will definitely not help matters. Don’t live a life of fantasy, be simple and moderate; don’t fabricate lies about what you are not. Please save your heart from being broken by being yourself.
Low self esteem
Before you can give out love you have to love yourself, if you don’t have any love for yourself then you don’t have any love to share. Having low self esteem, timidity, insecurity will only build up jealousy and this is not healthy to keep a relationship. Low self esteem will make you to have lack of trust for your partner and is no longer news that relationship is build on trust, you monitor all your partner is doing without giving him a breathing space, I’m very sure that people respect their private live so work on yourself to overcome low self esteem because no man wants to be in bondage because of love.
Arousing jealousy
Some people think that their partner will love them more when they make them to be jealous, they keep only opposite sex as friends, have strange pictures in their album, hide while picking some calls, go out alone without letting your partner know were you are going, lie at any simple question. There is a song writer that says that there is no true love without jealousy, meaning that your love will be jealous when they see you with an opposite sex so why make them jealousy? Something about jealousy is that the mind will not be settled, there will be no peace within the mind and this of course can course a relationship to fail.
Bad habit
There are many habits that can kill true love. They include smoking, drinking alcohol, careless talk, looking unkempt, dirty environment and house, empty barrel etc. work on your habit if you must have a relationship that will not fail, try to over come your bad habit with good ones, gradually build your character is not easy yes but they have to go in order for you to attract the best, change all the bad company your have as friends because they will not add any meaning to your life, replace them with good ones that can help you change and impact your life wisely. Your can talk to a mentor, pastor or parents about those habit they will help you to out grow them fast. For you to find or attract and keep decent people you have to first of all work on your attitude and be decent too.
other reasons for love failure
Other reasons are lack of respect for one another, quarrelling and domestic violence, unfaithfulness, laziness. Just make sure you work out your relationship and make it work for you.
No comments:
Post a Comment