Infidelity In Marriage 2 – Help my partner is cheating on me

what to do when you found out that your spouse cheats on you.

You are fully aware that your partner is having extramarital affairs, he/she has been caught in the web, your partner is aware you know that he/she is seeing someone else. Your spouse has or hasn’t also shown sign of repentance and you need to arrest the situation. You may not pay them back in their own coin, you should know that they devil is at work. Work out modalities to win your partner back.

In the world today marital infidelity is common. Couples no longer respect their marriage vow. The problem here is the way the world sells sex and commercializes infidelity, but if you want to save your relationship you have to give the relationship what it will take to thrive in the face of the great challenges. 

We told a story of a lady who found condom in her husband’s brief case. After washing his cloths she arranged the condom back in the brief case. The husband came back home expecting a quarrel but the lady never said a word rather she called on her husband and asked him to forgive her if she has ever offended him and if that is why he is having affairs. The end was that in peace she was able to save her marriage.

Amend any shortcoming you noticed

It maybe because of certain attitude you display that make your partner to have reasons to go out. So you have to look inward, amend your ways, if possible apologize and promise you will behave well. If you are the nagging type or your spouse has complained you nag don’t just argue work on yourself. Check out what you do to easily get your partner offended, and then make amend.

Resolve to forgive and work things out

Your partner is caught cheating on you, don't resolve to fighting; you can at first forgive your partner. You have to save your marriage. When your partner apoligizes, accept the apology and think of a way  to work things out. Most marriages face infidelity; to deal whit this you have to resolve to work things out and help to rebuilt friendship and trust.

Investigate the stranger

Try to know who the stranger is and try and make them know you are the wife of the man they holding back from you. If you can not handle it send someone to tell them that the person they are hanging out with is married. They may not be aware because sometime your partner is also lying to them that they are single. Some counselor suggest that this not always good because it may result to something bad. So caution is needed to handle this.

Show more love and care

Maybe you were the cause of what is happening because you were not as lovely as you used to be. This time step up care and love to win back your spouse. Don’t make a fight out of it, you can only win through love.

Tell them over and over again how it hurts

You don’t have to keep quiet; you have to tell them that they have to mend their ways. Let them know how painful it is to know your partner is cheating on you. Then when they fail to change you can now call for the help of third party. But caution is needed like I said before when bringing in a third party.

Take the blames

You can behave like the woman in the story. Tell your spouse you don’t want them to explain why they decide to cheat and you are sorry if you ever pushed him out. And he should not forget the impact on the union and future troubles it may cause your children, since no one wants to raise children that are loose.

Tell a confederate to advice you or talk to your spouse

If after all said and done nothing seems to work out seek adviced or you may want to involve a responsible family member they respect much, or involve a friend and better still tell his pastor to help talk to him so as to save your marriage.

Prayer

You have tried your best and done all it takes to bring out the best from your marriage then I must say the very first and last option is prayer. It is the sure way out.

If you don’t know how to pray, then be ready to take anything from your relationship. Prayer is one powerful tool to redirect your course in life. It answers to everything including your present situation.

Investigate the stranger