In any relationship attitude is a key player, we are the way we behave. Attitude is the way one thinks, feels, reacts, acts, and speaks. Attitude is the sum total of our personality.
All relationship is the combination of the behavior of the parties involved. A relationship can not be better than the way those in it behave. People always say what others have done to them and how they were wrongly treated but they don’t consider how they may have caused that. Our attitude can be analyzed in three dimensions. Any progress we make in life can be hold to these dimensions. Our relationship strongly depends on these 3 dimensions.
3 Dimensions of attitude
Mental dimension: the way we think, our mental capacity must be developed and improved. We don’t have to assume situation we should always use our mind to asses and reasoned out solution. The power of our mind strongly regulates our general perspective about life.
Emotional dimension: this is the way we feel and respond to external stimulus. Anger, strife, jealousy, love are all product of our emotion. What the emotion suggests most times is always against the right thing to do, when we at all time depend on it for direction we may never be right. Chose wisdom to decide when how you feel is involved. If you are in-charge then don’t always allow your emotions to decide for you.
Behavioral dimension: this dimension combines both mental and emotional dimensions. You can’t behave differently from the both. Apart from the fact that in some cases, some people are influence by spiritual and environmental factors. As a matter of fact we must be in-charge. They devil can not destroy as much as our behavior can. He operates only if the edge of our attitude is broken.
Core areas that need adjustment
Watch the tendencies to suspect
Don’t suspect and don’t give room for suspicion. I know of someone whose wife can’t answer his calls much less reading his text messages. So what can he be hiding? The same person doesn’t answer calls at the presence of his wife. it won’t work that way. You friends should be the friends of your spouse.
Express yourself
What you like and don’t like, say it, express love, appreciate good qualities of you spouse. Don’t be always mindful of what they don’t do well. What is not expressed is not said and can not be felt. Action speaks louder than words.
Create room for understanding
Both parties must be ready to create room for better understanding. They should be ready to shift grounds when there is misunderstanding. There is no smooth relationship/marriage there are occasions where everyone will be talking differently; for the relationship to go on, you must come to a juncture of understanding.
Discipline in anger
When you are angry don’t act and if you must act don’t be influence by anger. There must be offences, no matter how you avoid them. But don’t always regularize offences, so you must always learn to forgive. In fact if you want a wonderful relationship, be ready to be offended and be ready to forgive. Make enough rooms for forgiveness.
Sacrifice
Be ready to sacrifice a lot, without sacrifice any relationship will not work or stand. Sacrifice your right, sacrifice your comfort, and sacrifice your time and money, and even more.
Gratitude
Thank you is a simple statement of satisfaction. It builds up and encourages our spouse to do more. Always say thank you; after a good meal, assistance rendered and even more. My husband of resent times paid our boy’s school fees when he did that I said thank you my husband, I noticed he smiled and then he said I’m just trying to be responsible. A little word of gratitude will go a long way.
Take responsibility and don’t be incorrigible
Be ready to take corrections. Whenever there is an issue, don’t always think the other person is wrong and you are always correct. Look out for where you didn’t do well and make amend.
Don’t think to win through argument
When a talk is resulting in argument always try and keep quiet. Don’t try to win an argument, try to win love. Don’t try to win through an argument, win through love. Don’t forget if you or your partner wins don’t even try to think the other person has lost or is defeated. You have only won argument and lose love.
Optimism
Be optimistic about the relationship that it will work out and try to work it out. Don’t forget it is not the will of God for any sort of divorce so you must work it out. If you are yet married, breakage is not a solution you can always work it out. There is no one that is perfect.
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