Sex is a gift from God for people of the opposite sex who are married. It comes with lots of responsibility. Make your stand known about it. You are ready to get married and you will not fool around with sex. Guys tend to be very evasive about sex until they have made an attempt on you. Settle this matter when you are just starting out; there will be no sex until marriage, period.
Don’t stay over at his place for whatever reason. If you don’t have a ride, ask him to drive you home, or call a taxi for you. If you stay over, he may think that you really do belong to him and anything can happen from then on. Men that rape their dates look very normal until it happens. Don’t give anyone that opportunity. Maintain yourself respect. Carry yourself with dignity. Protect your integrity. If you sleep over, the next thing on his mind will be sex and that girl friend, is the beginning of the road to destruction for that relationship. Pre-marital sex now could lead to promiscuity later, you may not end up marrying him and when you find yourself in another relationship, you can hardly avoid sex and if that didn’t work out, you jump into another the end is promiscuity.
You do not prove love to him by having sex with him. Your value is not in the sex you offer but in your soul. If he insists on sex then maybe he is not the one for you. You must define your boundaries at the beginning of your relationship before things get out of hand. Learn to say NO, and stick to it.
Men are very physical. A man sees you in a gorgeous dress and he immediately starts thinking sex. Never expose your nakedness to him for any reason. Let him take you to the altar first.
Do not play sexual games with him. You are not an object of sex. Don’t give him the impression that you are.
A man sees you in an attractive dress and he is already aroused, but for you to be aroused most times, it involves words and touch. When a man you like starts touching your soul with his words, a sexual chemistry may most likely be created which may lead to sexual arousal. Engaging in long conversation with a man you don’t want to have a serious relationship with is dangerous, because before you realize it, both of you may begin to relate to an intimate an deep emotional level you never intended. Touch communicates interest and love but different kinds of touch elicit different kinds of emotional response from you. You must know your limits and stay within them. Kissing, touching and petting are always dangerous grounds to tread on. Don’t start something that is guaranteed to end in disaster.
You cannot tie him down to you by satisfying his sexual cravings or getting pregnant for him. Trying to manipulate, control and seduce him through sex will always prove counterproductive. In 2Samuel 13, Amnon, the son of King David had illicit sex with a woman. Immediately after the act, the Bible records that he hated her with passion. The sex did not bring them any closer; rather, it drove them apart.
He values you highly and thinks you are super spiritual because you refuse to have sex with him until you are legally married to him. If you succumb to your libido or his pressure, you break this perception and it will lower your value and estimation in his eyes.
You don’t really know him. He may have a long history of sex-escapades and may have contracted several diseases in the process. STD and AIDS cannot be seen on a person’s face. Burst that condom thought! People have AIDS today in spite of the use of condoms because of flaws and failure. The safest form of protection is abstinence. Simply say NO!
You will develop an emotional tie with him that could prove to be disastrous if you are not married to him. Sex creates a bonding known as ‘Soul-Tie’ that God reserved exclusively for married couples. Anything anybody says after that wouldn’t matter to you. You will be under a spell unless God shows you mercy. People get married to the wrong mates because their minds were under the influence of soul-tie. Where their eyes were later opened, they had to leave the marriage.
God says sex is for the marriage bed. It is holy. It is divine. Hollywood and Nollywood has cheapened it in movies, trying to make immorality look natural. Sex is a symbol of the covenant you have with your husband.
Sex is the ritual that seals the marriage covenant. You can only seal it after signing the marriage register.
Pre-marital sex brings sin and guilt into your relationship. You create an atmosphere of fear and distrust. There is no faster way to kill the relationship than that.
Pre-marital sex may lead to an unwanted pregnancy, which could totally destroy your relationship. Whether or not the man is responsible for it, he may deny ownership. How can he be certain that he is the real owner? You may end up with a child out of wedlock.
No matter how far you have gone in a relationship built around sex, turn back now. It doesn’t matter how many years you have been courting, disengage yourself from future torture.
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