Walking Towards A Successful Courtship

Courtship is the period or the space of time between when two people agreed to marry and wedlock. The duration when partners familiarize with themselves, and with their families, and the time they get to formalize all necessary marriage arrangements and procedures before the actual wedlock.

Courtship is a very delicate period because must times partners are held in a great web of unconscious deceptions, pretence and sometimes known ones. This period may be a period to grow love if the people involved were already friends. The period of my courtship was no struggle at all because my husband was my friend and mentor so we already know the truth about us. So the courtship began with a proposal which he suggested I should relate to my parents and I did, the rest are mere history today.

If the courtship period must be successful then you need to know how.

Communication

Communicate rightly; seek to understand not to be understood. What you say is not as important as what is heard. You can only be misunderstood if you are a poor communicator. Communication in courtship is as important as understanding your spouse. If you understood each other, it means you communicated well.

Open up

Please you have nothing to hide. There was a canceled wedding in where I served sometime ago. The marriage was fixed, the traditional rites were over and it was time for wedding when the news came that the groom called of the wedding because he discovered lately that the bride was having a child of about 10years of age.  Let them know all that they need to know. If you hide it show up later and that can lead to heartbreak and even divorce if it is discovered lately after marriage. Nothing to fear if they love you, they will go on with you. After all, a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.

Ask Question

Please don’t assume, leave nothing to doubt, ask questions. Areas you are not clear or sure confirm and get affirmation if you must precede then you can.

Find out

Where they are from, their sources of income, their background and all that you fear may not be easily discovered.

Spend time together

I don’t mean you should spend time in sex, caressing and other immoral activities; rather spend time in fellowship, outing, discussion, function and prayer. The idea is to build love and build intimacy and better friendship.

Build love and grow trust

The idea of courtship is for you to see if you can tolerate each other, accept each other and live for each other. So all should do is to see how you can increase love and grow trust. Sex is not an act of building love; rather it will kill trust in marriage.

Prayer

Get close to God in prayer. Anything you have prayed about is near completion if you pray accordingly. Don’t neglect the God factor.

Get parental blessing

No matter how difficult it may be make sure both of you get your parental blessing. If you know he/she is okay for you, then you must get a blessing from your parents. Otherwise I’m afraid it is a bad idea to do without it. God can always direct you alright again.