For one to become a good father hard work is highly required ordinarily relationship is a complex thing and becoming a good father is more demanding. Most men just discovered that they are no longer friendly, playful and had fun to be with to their children, may be because they are over occupied with their work or they just decided to become bullies to their children. Children draw closer to their mother more because they believe she is more caring and understanding.
Permit me to say, it is be to be a good father than trying to put food on the table or paying school fees yet the children prefer when you are not at home. Before you can be a good father you must put all these tips into practice.
Create Time For The Home
Let your children know that you value them by spending quality time with them, even if you are busy with work. When you are at home let them feel your presence than you just watching CNN or reading news papers at spare time. Help them in doing their home work, lacing their shoes, bathing them and even cooking for them, one secrete some fathers don’t know is that children enjoy when their father cook. They will wonder how the food will taste. You can also sing lullaby for them when they are about to sleep, do some painting and also take a walk with them. Just think of any thing that can make your children happy. Be fun to be with, don’t drive your children away from you, bring them close and tell them stories about your childhood; how you meet their mother and how happy you were when they where born.
Be a Friend
A friend is someone you can easily talk to. As a father you have to learn how to easily communicate to your children so that they will be free to pour out their heart to you. Also be a good listener when they talk. Allow the children to be part of decision making in the family, always ask for their opinion so that they can feel important. No matter what they have to say, no matter how stupid and annoying it might be just keep calm and don’t loose your temper at them. Allow them to express their feeling when they are happy or sad so that they will not be leaving in pretence. Don’t judge your children according to what they tell you, just listen and give the proper advice were necessary.
Love Their Mother
Let your children know that you love and respect their mother in your actions. If there are issues in the home don’t react in front of your children. Loving your wife will go a long way in effecting what the children think about you. Respect your wife’s opinion and don’t treat her like a nobody. When you love your wife your children will also grow to love and respect their wives and husband because they understand the value of love.
Correct With Love
When they have done wrong correct them with love, don’t loose your temper at them because you might end up hurting them. Also, when they have done well appreciate them, don’t force them to do what they don’t like, allow them to be themselves let them learn how to take responsibility. Don’t point out only their wrongs so that they will not end up having low self esteem. Allow them to face their fears and when they fail encourage them and don’t mock them.
Respect God and Pray Together
For you to be a good father you must learn how to put God first. Pray with your children and bring them up in the way of the lord so that when they grow they will never depart from the godly part.
Try To Know Their Friends
When your child is noticed to have a bad influence from friends, invite their friends to your home and spend time together. Let their friends know your value and encourage them to behave well. Most parent think by preventing friends of the opposite sex of their children from coming close is way of discipline. The truth is that you are giving room to your children to pretend. For you to control their excesses draw both them and their friends close.
Teach Sex Education
Don’t leave sex education to their mother alone. Teach them the danger of premarital sex and give them books to read.
Show Concern
Be involved in what they do, show concern and let them know you are mindful of them. If they are sick, hurt or displeased or faced with challenges let them know you are with them so they can always relate to you their secrets. Let them miss you when you are not at home.
Be Their Hero and Lead By Example
I once asked a child who he wants to be like he said he would want to be like his father that his father is his hero. When I further pressed the question, wanting to know why he wants to take after his father he said he loved his father and his father would go extra miles to make them have the best. I think what the child is facing here is influence. Leave a positive influence on your child. Lead by example; if you want them to be truthful then you must be, if you want them to be kind then you must be.
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