Overcoming Heartbreak

Heart break is an emotional state of regrets, sorrow and injuries inflicted by someone’s partner. It is an emotional state of love related disappointments and hurts that arise from such disappointments.

Heartbreak has resulted in many casualties: people taking their own life, a case of a pastor’s daughter who drank acid, simply because she met her lover with another lady at home making love and having romance. Another episode in Warri Delta State, where a girl committed suicide because the father of her child disappointed her and married another girl after he promised to marry her. There are lots of cases on heartbreak and various consequences. After lots of research and interviews, possible ways of overcoming heartbreak are enumerated below.

Accept your fate  

There is a popular saying that ‘’what ever happens to a man is equals to the man’’. You need to accept the fact that heartbreak is part of life and can happen to anybody no matter the background of that person. The only thing you must do is to learn lessons from the mistake and move ahead.

Stop blaming yourself over what happened. People who have experienced heartbreak, always blame themselves to have play the fool. The truth is that you are not the first person to experience heartbreak, I have; several times. You must stop blaming yourself, because if you do, you will only succeed in creating more problems.

Forgive

There is always a saying that to err is human but to for give is divine. There are two persons you must forgive and even three, as the case maybe. First you must forgive yourself and secondly you must forgive your partner, it is not very easy, but just try and push it away from your mind. Sometime some people ask God why he allowed them to face such trials. The truth is that God is not the cause and even if you think he didn’t do well by allowing you to fall, and then forgive God. Mistakes are meant to be made. Only the foolish people die or kill themselves because of mistakes. Tell you yourself you need to forgive you and face the reality of life and move on.

Heal the injury and avoid things that remind you the pains

There are effective ways of healing emotional wounds. You can do this by listening to life transforming messages, motivational talks, attend functions, read books and magazines, and attend church activities or a social function. Don’t go about telling people how they disappointed you and don’t allow people pity you. One way to lose the pains is to tell yourself that you are worth more than the one that left and you are not meant to be together. You can possibly destroy any item you shared together if they are reminding you of the pains.

Don’t try to jump into another relationship so as to forget or replace the past

Most people will immediately opt for another relationship in a bid to forget their ex. If you do that you may not choose correctly and you may end up in another disappointment. Sometime you may realize that the new person is not the kind of person you desire. Most time if you jump into another relationship what comes next is sex because it will just be pouring out you mind and uncontrollably depending on that person and that is not healthy. So take your time to recover from the pains.

Get busy

Choose a hubby that will keep you busy or take more steps working harder till you know you have recovered in full. You do some exercises and practice new skills or develop a helpful habit. This will occupy your mind for the mean while till you are up completely.

Cast the burden on God

The best way to overcome a pain is to cast it on the maker. Go to Him in prayer, repent of your sins and asked for a renewal of spirit. Then pray to be connected to your Mr. or Mrs. Right.

Don’t over delay before getting into another relationship

Let me quickly say if you are not yet ready for marriage then you have no business in any sort of dating or courtship. Imaging people dating or courting for over 8 years, without the certainty of marrying soon. What do you want from such relationship? You can make friends and mix up but be careful for unnecessary attachment.

Now, after you have recovered in full, then you can now carefully choose your spouse or accept the right the person.

Some people will unnecessarily delay: some ladies will even say all men are the same, meaning men will always disappoint. These are all excuses to further delay. There is always someone who will love you for you.