Nowadays, most singles marry without laying proper foundation. A proper foundation is the one that has appropriate materials cultivated by the individuals before entering the union. The point we are making here is that proper foundation should be laid; consultations, preparations, planning, learning etc. should be made the absence of any or all of the essential marriage foundational elements, will certainly result in rickety or improper foundation.
Most improper foundations involve some or all of the following vital elements.
Learning
Marriage without learning – Most marriage intending couples planed their wedding, but very few planed their marriage. They know short or nothing about home making, family finance, family life etc. All they know is how glamorous the wedding will be but lack sufficiently, enough knowledge on how to run marriage and build a home. They think marriage is about ecstasy, but they will be boorishly shocked out and suffocated when they discover too late that it is all about responsibilities and completely leadership. They import the rings, shoes, bags, etc and they are careless enough to act as if they can also import fulfillment in marriage. The worse is to think or connive with the devil to agree that marriage will work out itself by itself or by nature.
Learning
Marriage without learning – Most marriage intending couples planed their wedding, but very few planed their marriage. They know short or nothing about home making, family finance, family life etc. All they know is how glamorous the wedding will be but lack sufficiently, enough knowledge on how to run marriage and build a home. They think marriage is about ecstasy, but they will be boorishly shocked out and suffocated when they discover too late that it is all about responsibilities and completely leadership. They import the rings, shoes, bags, etc and they are careless enough to act as if they can also import fulfillment in marriage. The worse is to think or connive with the devil to agree that marriage will work out itself by itself or by nature.
Please be adequately informed that you need to have complete knowledge of marriage leadership; home making and building, family finance, How to build and grow love, Marital compromise, Marital friendship, Marital intimacy, Marriage and communication, Humour and marriage, Marriage and Corrigibility, Family responsibility etc.
Most marriages are at the wheel of collapse, can you imagine little things have ruined so many marriages today and many are suffering decay because some married couples know squat or zilch about marriage.
Income
Marriage without source of income – Many marriage counselors have advised that money should not be the issue to consider when you want to marry. But let me differ a little, no marriage is contracted free even if you have a helping hand to run the welding don’t expect the same helping hand to run the marriage, build a home, raise children etc.
Marriage without any source of livelihood is a fatal mistake to make, because it is a deliberate attempt to dent the true image of God as the all sufficient God. God commissioned Adam to keep and to dress the Garden of Eden before a wife arrived.
Proverbs 24; 27; - ‘’Prepare your work without and make it fit for yourself in the field, and afterwards build your house’’.
However small, you should have some sort of income before thinking of marriage. You don’t want to commit suicide I guess?
Selflessness
Self centeredness – Many couples are still glued to self before going into marriage and now that they are married they are still full of self; self-focused, self-centered, self-justified, self-admiration, etc. they know it all nothing the other person says or will say is correct, their language is ‘’I’’, ‘’Me,’’ ‘’Mine,’’ and ‘’Myself.’’ Nobody can successfully be the spouse to a person that is still married to self. For cry out loud you are already too engage to self and marriage is sacrifice, selflessness, playing the fool and you can’t be a husband or a wife that way.
Planning
Marriage without proper sense of the future – you want to embark on a journey without Scheduling your voyage. Many people jump in and out of marriage because they didn’t plan well and decide on certain issues. Or may be they fail to asked question on how to go about the life time journey – marriage.
Prayer
Prayerlessness – many marriage collapsed today because couples don’t know that the marriage institution is a target of the enemy the devil. Your marriage can only stand the test of time if one is prayerful. When issues you don’t like are popping up you know the devil is at work.
Mentality
Wrong mentality – Any married individual with wrong mental attitude will be a disaster to marital well-being. If you don’t think right, you cannot act right. If your marriage must be alright, then you must not enslave your mind with errors. You hear some people saying – “All men are the same. “ “No woman can be trusted.” “If you tell a woman your entire secrets she can harm you.” ‘’Men are generally evil.’’ ‘’Women are generally bad.’’ ‘’All mother-in-laws are bad.’’ ‘’Marriage is 50/50.’’ ‘’Wives should be beaten if they misbehave.’’ ‘’No man can control me.’’ ‘’No woman should know how much I earn.’’ ‘’There is nothing like genuine love again.’’ ‘’No woman should be trusted.’’ ‘’Men are unreliable.’’ ‘’If you show a woman that you love her she would start to misbehave.’’ ‘’My children and not my spouse are number one in my life.’’ ‘’I can’t stay in the same room with a woman.’’ ‘’It is wrong to play with ones wife.’’ ‘’It is unmanly to tell a woman I love you.’’ Can you imagine some married couples still have these wrong mentalities till now? Little wonder they are failing.
Home essentials
Marriage without Home essentials – If you fail to make ready a house and equip it for comfortable stay, then you will be building on an improper foundation. Before thinking of marriage you should have an apartment you can call your own with some or all the necessary essentials.
Character
Good Personal disposition – Maturity is not only a function of age but majorly of character. If you are not well mannered you can work on yourself. I hear people say this is how I behave I can’t change. You have believed a lie. Everyone but the devil can change.
Home essentials
Marriage without source of income – Many marriage counselors have advised that money should not be the issue to consider when you want to marry. But let me differ a little, no marriage is contracted free even if
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