Most women blame the devil or parents or grand parents as the cause of their lateness in marriage. Yes any of these could be the cause but I think that is no sufficient reason to suffer delay in marriage. You can only correct disobedient when you have fulfilled your obedient. By this I mean, when you do what you are supposed to do and you are standing on solid grounds then there will be no devil or agents of wickedness around you. I have come to realized in life that there is no devil any where apart from the ones we created, allowed or employed.
Menopause starts at 40 for most women. So a woman is expected to be married early before 30 if she wants to raise children early and get her expected number of children on time.
Frankly speaking most time we cause all our problems since we often allow or give room to enemies. One major way we cause delay in marriage is through our attitude. What the devil can’t do, character bankruptcy will certainly do. Bad character will not only delay you, it will also tear your home down if you eventually get married. Therefore every thing centers on attitude.So you see you could be the major cause.
Let us therefore see what the probable causes of lateness in marriage are
Riotous Living
To live riotous is to live carelessly and or extremely uncontrollable. No good thinking man will consider making you a wife. Even the ill-tempered people desire others with well cultured manner. But who will want risk an ill-tempered woman? So when once you are engaged, sooner than later you disengaged again because nobody will. So calm down; stop those excessive partying, clubbing, drinking etc. Talking about drinking the other day I was at the marriage ceremony of my kid sister, a girl sitting by me has gulped down over six bottles of bear and was still demanding more. Imagine if her Mr. Right were to be there.
Cut your coat according to your cloth; Living within your means. If you are expensive then you will have to wait for someone who has the box to throw or waste around. Let me tell you no one has it enough to waste. All good men want a woman that can manage resources. So don’t scare them away.
You can blow hundreds of thousands on little or no important commodity and expect men to hook up with you. No! That will not last; the relationship will soon be over. Extravagances will ruin your chances of marrying at the appropriate time.
Double Dating
Back then in school everybody know girl X (name withheld) to be dating different kinds of guys. Yet she has a serious guy whom she claims she wants to marry. She has different cases of sex scandals. The worse is when her fiance came to visit her in school without prior notice, only to meet her on bed having fun with another guy.
A lady can put more than one suitor on hold until she finally gives consent to one and then dispatch the rest. Not hanging on all of them. You can also be unfaithful after marriage: that is the picture you paint when you double date. When he notices, he dumps you for another.
Too Demanding
Most ladies make mistakes; they think when they demand and their request is granted, that makes their guy caring or not stingy: that is not true. The picture you paint here is that you are out to brain drain them. No man would want to marry a leach. As a lady who is mature enough to marry you should be able to settle your daily demands and whatever he gives, is just to assist.
Quarrelsomeness and anger
If you pester, nag, resent and you are fastidious you could end at friendship that will not always last. No matter how good you are, it will always be difficult to see someone that can please you. No man will like their woman to be like that. You are not their mother; they had enough as a young man whose mother will always tell them what to do and not to do. They can take it from mum but not you.
Anger on the other hand can destroy what you have built over time. Work on your temperament, is bad for a lady to be easily angered. Don’t tell me that, that is how you are; it is shameful not to be able to work on yourself. Everybody has the potential to be a thief but choices differentiated them.
Fault finding
Do you always find fault on what people do and defend your wrongs? You are never wrong others should bear the blames. Shifting blames and not taking responsibility for good and bad is a quality of fault finders. This attitude can or will certainly get you later than expected in marriage. Be careful to cast blames. In fact don’t always be mindful or careful about who is wrong. How do we correct it should be your focus.
Insincerity
All men love sincere ladies, they resent pretentious ones. Be open and truthful that is all it takes to win a man’s undying love. Don’t purposely tell lies, as much as you can tell the truth. If you lie, you will be often discovered. If they don’t tell you may be they just want to respect you. But if it continues then be sure you are employing the devil to help you in that lateness to marriage.
Pride and arrogance
Pride and arrogance is associated with the male. But that too is distasteful much less a woman who is not respectful, humane or meek. What men consider as love is respect and value. So you can stop this delay.
Emphasis on being sexy instead attractiveness
Most ladies think when they wear skimping skirts, trousers, etc. or mini clothes that is when they look attractive. The best you can get out of that is sex partners. After they had enough of you they will go. Dress modestly, look good and attractive and be decent that is what it takes to sell.
Close your legs and avoid premarital sex
Most girls, as soon as they accept a boy the next thing is to start sleeping with them. A man (your husband) will prefer you if they met you a closed wall, a tiny road and not a double lane road. Most sexually active relationships don’t end in marriage.
Other Causes are
Being too busy to hang out and fellowship (time constrain)
Most working class ladies have no time. They don’t take time to mix up and be available to get the right person of their choice. Lack of sufficient time is one reason working class women marry late.
High standards, goals and ambitions
Some women set some standards that their husbands must attain or place certain qualities that are not realistic. Gold is always clothed in dross. The true man is the inward man and the future can not always be seen immediately. Let your standards be guided. Don’t be too selective.
Working class women seem to have goals which they work towards. They may want to attain certain financial standings or certain positions in life before considering marriage. Some get there early however most of them wait longer than they expected so they marry quite much later in life.
Parents Consent and Misguidance
Some parents don’t help matters, they place demands that don’t exist. They tell their girls the quality of men to and not to marry. As a lady, is true you should get their consent but don’t be misguided. Follow your heart.
Enemies
There are enemies of progress everywhere, don’t ignore that fact. People don’t want you to smile and so they would want to frustrate anything that will give you joy. But don’t just focus on the enemy and ignoring the fact that you have much to do. Prayer is the way out.
Way out
Some of the ways out have been discussed whoever the followings are some important tools
Look neat and well cultured: all men love that.
Show sense of financial independent: no man wants to marry a parasite.
Set godly standards and get realizable goals.
Time is life put limit to everything; don’t over do some at the expense of others.
Prayer and fasting is one big pill to delay marriage ill. Pray through and then breakthrough.
Article by Pastor Godwin Okoremu (presenter loverealm@relationship.com a relationship talk show)
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