Raising A Goodly And Peaceful Family

God commended Abraham that he is going to instruct his children after God (Gen 18:17). To raise a happy home is something every family anticipates but why is it the other way round for some homes and families. Many families neglect their responsibilities; they think child upbringing is about giving them food, shelter, clothing and formal education it include all that but is more of inculcating peace, honor, mutual respect, reverence for God, good morals and trust worthiness. So, the issue here now is how we can such family.

Training and discipline – the bible says “train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it” (Prov 22:6). In child training it is not to stipulates do’s and don’ts but to draw the child and the entire house hold closer to your believe and faith. More so, it is to mold their characters and build their personalities. It will certainly involve instructing them and compelling them to abide by the instructions. This alone will not just do the magic so you need other principles.

Have a working order – this order or family government should be certain limits or boundary that no one should break or violate no matter the persons (father and mother included) – for instance everyone wakes up by 5am to pray together, or no one goes out as soon as is late etc. Even if you have extended family staying with you tell them how it works in your house.

Live an exemplary life – you life style is the major key player in raising a peaceful home. You can’t insult your husband or beat up your wife and expect that you will raise a happy home. Or you smoke and you don’t want your children to smoke; in fact they have higher tendencies to handle marijuana if they see you smoke. So first your character should reflect what you want in your home. If the children must read at certain time then you must also be a studious parent.

Find a life of sacrifice – be ready to always go the extra miles to see that the home is comfortable. Sacrifice your sleep, money, time, food and even comfort just to sustain peace, happiness and unity of the home.

Show love and concern – let them know you care not just by saying it but by acting it and showing it in all you do. When they are sick, sad, lonely and confused be the friend they see. They are not just your family but your loved ones and best friends you have. Some kids prefer staying with friends and family relations that may be an indication of not creating enough affection in the home. Let them miss you when you are gone out. Let them love staying with you at all times.

Apologize when you are wrong – a man said he can't tell his wife that he is sorry; that it will make her proud and disrespectful. And when he was asked if he offends the wife what he will do, he said he will buy her shoes and cloths. I think that is foolishness, because “I am sorry” is cheaper. Apologize to the children, to your spouse; make them see the need to always respect how someone feels.

Forgive at all time – if you can’t forgive it means you are not qualified to lead that family and in fact you have started failing as a parent. Build the spirit of forgiveness and tenderness in the children and in your home. – The first to apologize is the bravest, the first to forgive is the strongest, and the first to forget is the happiest.

Build friendship – are you friends to one another or just one home that lacks friendship? If you must build understanding and loveliness then you must strive to build friendship among the members of your home. Don’t take side or prefer one person to the other and even if you are tempted to, don’t show it. You may appreciate the good quality of anyone who shows exceptions to challenge others and encourage the person.

Family Alter and the God factor – pray together and pray for your family. Invite the leading of God. Don’t try to run the family on your own. Imbibe the altitude of waking up early to pray in the morning and before going to bed. That will not only make God take charge but it will bring the family close and strong, and build the same attitude in the children.

Avoid misunderstanding - if the home must be in peace take a delebrate steps to avoid misunderstanding. Even if it is something that you need to reply or prove or argue, you can consciously ignore. Don't try to prove a point just try to be at peace.

Settle quarrel before dusk - there may be misunderstanding or dispute but it should be settled immediately. 

Spend Time Together - family should learn to stay together; spend time to play games, visit amusement park, have fun and be happy.

Communicate well - each time i came back from any outing my husband will always want every detials and each time we share our experiences, we build love and intimacy. And there can be no happy  home without these elements. Home without good communication, 
can not be happy.








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