Communication Tips For Interpersonal relationship

What you said is not more important than what they heard, good communicators do not seek to be understood they are heard clearly and understood rightly

You are what you say. So watch what you say, words have power.

Your words reflect your values and beliefs and they have great deal in shaping your destiny.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. People try to convince others and trying to explain what they earlier said, instead of making it clear at the point of the making of the speech.  

Keep secrets confidential. If the people who spoke with you in confidence wanted the whole world to know about it, they would have posted it on the internet.

You are not better than anyone else, so do not speak condescendingly to people.

Be extremely polite to people. It is a door opener in career and relationships. Bankers, entrepreneurs and public figures should learn to be reserved and polite.

When you are tempted to be rude, resist it, rudeness is a true offspring of pride.

Listen to all sides before you speak. Only a fool speaks without facts. Let you judgment be fair enough to all concern.

Listen twice as much as you speak. Self confidence is talking less and listening more. You have one mouth and two ears; so you can talk less and listen more.

If you don’t know what to say, say nothing. Quietness in the face of daring need to talk and make nonsense is grave wisdom.

Make sure that what you are saying is the truth so you never have to live in fear of being discovered.

Think twice, listen more and speak once. It is not shortage of words rather it is shortage of imprudence and want of thoughtlessness.

If you catch yourself exaggerating, correct yourself immediately and say the right thing. The more you lie, the more you create new lies to cover-up the previous ones you concocted. You will forever be looking behind your back to see what is catching up with you among your lies. Truth liberates you. The path of integrity is always the best choice. The only way to save you from lies is simply say what is sufficiently enough and don’t try to impress people.

To become an exceptional conversationalist, practice active listening, ask questions, don’t interrupt others and maintain eye contact.

The easiest way to make an enemy is to win an argument and make the other person look stupid especially in public. Express your opinion and let other express theirs.

Learn to pay compliments to people, especially when they look, dress, speak or perform better than you.

Handle compliments with simplicity and don’t cheapen or despise the compliment. I.e. someone said Ojo you shoe is powerful. Thank you would have been enough instead of saying O it is one of my least.  

Don’t try to impress people with your accomplishments, let them discover it themselves.

Name dropping is inappropriate. Don’t use the names of successful or famous people in conversation to boost your low esteem.

Speak of the good in all your relationships, both past and present.

Learn to be assertive, tactful and sensitive.

Say the best about people you are not really close to but have heard or read about. Some of their friends may be present listening to you.

When talking to people, avoid talking about your hurts and those who engineered them.

Don’t advertise your past failures, shortcomings or weaknesses. Always engage in edifying conversation and avoid tearing people down.

Work on your communication skills. There is no worst putt off than a good looking man or woman with a terrible command of English language. Improve yourself. Remember that your facial expression and body language form about 60% of your communication, so let your words and your non verbal cues harmonize. 

Your ability to express yourself clearly will draw people to you and open doors of opportunity in relationships and business.  

The easiest way to make an enemy is to win an argument and make the other person look stupid especially in public. Express your opinion and let other express theirs.